Hello, my dears. Welcome back to Date Guru, where I play Good Witch and wave my wand over all your problems, vanishing them away!
Hi, I like this guy in the office, but I’m a little scared to ask him out and we also have strict policy on office relationships and the last couple got sacked from the office. Can you advise me on this?
The answer to this one can be summed up in three little words: don’t do it. You need me to expand? Do not do it. Okay, so I’ve known some happy office romances in my time, but, dear Asker, I’ve also known many that have crashed and failed. Want to know what happens then? There are weeks of awkward silence, trying to avoid running into each other by the coffee machine or the cafeteria. One of you will take it worse than the other, and that means locking yourself in the bathroom to weep or taking more leave than you’re entitled to. Factor into all this, the fact that you’ll have to keep it a secret, which means that he has carte blanche to pretend it never happened, and that’s a recipe for disaster. Keep your job –and your crush!–intact, by having some harmless flirting, and maybe look for romance outside the workplace.
Me and my girlfriend are now dating for almost 3 years and we are now ready to get married, we are both working in the same office and we are delaying because I can’t find another a job with better pay because of the office policies. What should I do?
Well, I’m assuming, since you haven’t mentioned, that your office, unlike the one mentioned above, is okay with office romances. And from my limited experience, there’s nothing a romance-friendly office likes more than one of the couples becoming actually legitimate. It gives your boss something to brag about at your wedding and subsequent parties: “See those two? I basically fixed them up.” If, however, you’re worried about what being together 24/7 will do for your relationship, then, that’s a legitimate worry. Maybe one of you could be transferred to a different department within the same office? If that’s not possible, then do your best to keep the romance alive and thriving–random flowers on a Tuesday, date night whenever you can manage it, and make a strict “we’re not talking about work when we’re not at work” policy and stick to it.”
That’s all for this week, lovelies. Leave a question in the comments if you need my words of wisdom, and we might put it in next week’s feature!
No comments:
Post a Comment