Considering turning a friend into a lover?

Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”- Anais Nin

Friends stand by you in times of need, go with you to movies, parties, events, and they are the ones who put meaning into your life. I am sure you must have friends of the opposite sex. After getting to know him/her, you may find yourself getting attracted to the person and consider turning the friendship into a relationship. Ever happened? Needless to say- It has.

It happens to both men and women and all of us go through such phases. But in order to consider a friendship to turn into a relationship the first and foremost thing to remember is that you need to maintain an awareness of the other person’s unspoken reactions, both through body language and through things like the speed with which they speak… these things can be a map showing you where land mines lay under the surface, allowing you to avoid them. They can also tell you when the other person truly isn’t interested, rather than simply not having thought of you that way before.

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Turn a friend into a lover

So here are few tips to turn a friend into a partner-
1. The more “active” time you spend around them, the more you will be in their thoughts, which provides you with a little subconscious “step up” from just the other people around them.

2. A great way to get someone to feel closer to you is to give them an opportunity to talk about themselves without directly asking them something they would consider “too personal”. You can do this by asking questions… like “What’s the worst food you’ve ever eaten?” instead of “What do you do for a living?”

3. The next step after breaking the ice a little more is to actually get them to do things with you. These don’t have to be major things, and they don’t need to be dates… anything you do together, where there is a lot of interaction between the two of you, helps build shared experiences, and helps to put you more in their thoughts.

4. Look for signs that your friend wants more than a friendship from you. You might see that your friend sits very close to you when you sit down to watch a movie together, or that quick gazes at each other seem to last longer. The body language has gone from just whatever to the friend turning towards you and looking at you more often while you are talking.

5. If you want to build a romantic relationship with someone, you will first have to expose some of your own inner self. They can’t form a relationship with a blank wall… you have to provide them with some sense of who you are for them to be able to reach out to you.

6. Find out if there is a mutual attraction. More than just having traits and characteristics that you each desire, there has to be a spark

7. You also may need to make small romantic gestures from time to time, things that are culturally accepted as being things that “couples” do. This could be something like buying small pieces of jewelry for a woman or making a meal for either… it doesn’t really matter as long as it’s not too large a gesture.

In conclusion if you like someone, and if he or she is a friend; tell them how you feel. That is my perspective. Remember this advice is intended to help you get a chance to move out of the “friend” mold… a chance, not a certainty.
Good luck…And just don’t rush